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Fighting For Your Marriage (Even When Things Are Good)

Why Fight When Things Are Good?

 
If you are like most people, you're probably thinking... "Why would I fight for my marriage when things are going great?" In one sense, the word "fighting" doesn't sound like a great word to be used in conjunction with the word "marriage." On the other hand, it depends on your definition of the "fighting."
 
fight·ing
ˈfīdiNG/
 
noun: fighting; plural noun: fightings
 
1. the action of fighting; violence or conflict. (ex. "terrible fighting broke out in the streets")
Synonyms: Violence, hostilities, conflict, action, combat, warfare, war, battles.
Antonyms: Peace
 
adjective: fighting
1. displaying or engaging in violence, combat, or aggression. (ex. "he was a fighting man")
Other definitions go from "to quarrel or argue" to "struggle or campaign against."
 
Let's narrow the focus a bit. Another definition is "endeavor vigorously to win (an election or other contest)." In plain words, this...
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5 Ways You Can Master The Art Of Slowing Down And Enjoying Life

There's a slowing down problem in today's society.
 
I hear the same words repeated time and time again:
  • Exhausted
  • Overworked
  • Overwhelmed
  • Over-scheduled
  • Anxious
  • Dissatisfied

It’s an issue that applies to everyone it seems. No matter if you run a successful business, non-profit, corporation or church... These words might sneak up on you. No matter if you are young or old, rich or poor, professionals or parents, women or men, Republicans or Democrats, it doesn't matter. This is an issue that doesn't discriminate. It's clearly a global issue.

If you get to the heart of these issues, you will see that the issue is really just a TIME issue.
  • If you are feeling exhausted, it might be because you haven’t allowed yourself enough time to rest. 
  • If you are feeling anxious, it might be because you want something to change and happen that is outside of your control.
  • If you are feeling overwhelmed, it might...
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The MVP Strategy Every Winning Family Should Use

If you haven’t heard of what our version of what "winning" really is then let me fill you in… You ready? You have to lead at home, to win at life (shocker, I know). So in today we are going to give you a brand new winning strategy that you can use for your family.

MVP is an acronym, most people think it stands for Most Valuable Player… Which it does… But not for today. Today it stands for something else because we are going to give you the MVP acronym for winning families.

Think MVP.

M = Mission

A family mission statement is a combined, unified expression from all family members of what your family is all about — what it is you really want to do and be — and the principles you choose to govern your family life. Here's an example of our family mission statement.
 
Garcia Family Mission Statement:
"We will grow our faith in God and live in His kingdom’s purpose. We will worship our Creator...
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The 3 Keys to Cultivating A Winning Marriage

A message from Pastor Randy and Kelli Ayres, Lead Pastors at Cross Mountain Church in San Antonio, TX.
 
"We don't have all the answers. We are not perfect, our marriage is not perfect and our family is not perfect. We still argue and we still want to strangle our kids at times (only kidding), but we simply want to share what we've learned. We want to share things we are trying… or know we should be trying.
 
Studies show that as the average couple gets older (and their kids grow older), the satisfaction level of the marriage gets lower and lower. The only time this changes significantly is when the children leave home.  At that point, the satisfaction of marriage will rise somewhat but still remain lower than when the marriage first began.
 
We wanted to break each of those down and talk about cultivating each of those in our lives, in our relationship and in our marriage.
 

1. Cultivating Commitment

 
This is the bedrock and...
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3 Keys to Living With Balance and Leading With Impact.

I’ll be honest, I haven’t always got this one right. It took me a few years to structure my life in a way that would help me…

1. Love God more
2. Love my wife better
3. Lead my kids intentionally
4. Take care of my body and mind better
5. Grow and scale my businesses faster
6. Serve my community with greater impact
7. Give my time and money more consistently
8. Just simply lead an all around better life.

Through years of trial and error, trying to balance so many aspects of life and making mistakes along the way, I realized that it is possible to achieve both balance and impact.

There were 3 key realizations I had that helped me make significant strides towards this (although at times I still fail).

Realization #1

The more I tried to please others, the more I said “yes” to things that truly didn’t align with what I needed to do and who I needed to be. Therefore, saying “yes” to those things practically derailed any type of progress I could...

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5 Actionable Ways to Help You Lead at Home

The whole concept of "Leading at home, winning at life" may seem ideal to many people, but it doesn't happen overnight. It comes with making big decisions that will impact the way you live and lead.
 
We believe that with a God-focused mindset, everything else will fall into place.
 
With God at #1... marriages thrive, parenthood produces fruit, and God expresses favor over your career. If done in the opposite order, many people will find that filling their career bucket first will lead to much unhappiness and dissatisfaction.
 
Today, we bring you the 5 Actionable Ways to Help You Lead At Home And Win At Life.
 
 
Leading at home will help you...  

1: Rethink your priorities

At the beginning of 2017, I went on The Millennial Leadership Show, and made a promise to my listeners that I would read one book per week for a whole year. That's a whopping total of 52 books! As soon as the show ended, I cringed.
 
How in the world am I going to do...
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How I Read 70 Books in One Year + 8 Pro Tips To Read More

I had a typical goal last year. I wanted to read more... a lot more! I wanted 2017 to be a huge boost in my self development journey, so I did what many people do and headed to Barnes and Nobles Bookstore to look at some books that I could read throughout the year. I pulled out my iPhone, made a new note in my Evernote app entitled "Books to Read in 2017" and started making a list of the books that peaked my interest. My goal was to choose 12 books in the bookstore so that I could read one book per month. I gazed through the many book titles by highly acclaimed authors, I couldn't help but continue to build my list.

My list kept getting bigger, and bigger, and bigger. Finally, I stepped away and found a table nearby and started to go through my long list of books. I was shocked to find that my book tally was well over one hundred! I reminded myself that I could only choose 12 books from the list, and then did that math and figured that at this rate it would take almost 10 years to...

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How to Squeeze Time and Master Burnout With This Essential Approach To Life

Does this sound like you?

  • I am experiencing signs of burnout.
  • I have too many irons in the fire.
  • I feel like I’m spread too thin.
  • I’m running on a hamster wheel.
  • I feel like throwing spaghetti on the wall!
  • Do you feel like you are majoring in minor activities?
  • Do you feel like you are busy but not productive?
  • Do you feel over-worked and underutilized?

If you answered yes to any of these, the way out is to concentrate on your life essentials! 

One of the biggest problems that exists in our work culture today is that we have the tendency to value those who are full of projects and tasks. We place value on those who are at every single meeting and are always there whenever they are needed. Although this may seem like a great quality, this type of tendency will lead to the consequences listed above. These people will feel overwhelmed, burnt out and spread too thin. Let’s talk about something that is much more effective, the way of the essentialist.
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8 Helpful Ways To Overcome Doubt

One of the biggest psychological barriers that plagues hundreds of millions of people around the world is known as doubt. Doubt keeps many people easily contained in their own small box. It paralyzes innovation, destroys opportunities, and demolishes would-be entrepreneurs. Learning how to overcome doubt may be the single biggest difference that one can make in their lives. Mastering this one issue can open a new horizon of opportunities for you because of the effect that it has on so many areas of life. Doubt creeps into our lives even when we don't realize it. We may be a naturally-confident person, but as you evaluate yourself and your level of accomplishment, you may see areas where you have held back. Whether it's starting your own business, pitching the CEO, or talking to that attractive woman/man, doubt sometimes manifests itself in a form that many of us may not even realize. You may not feel the doubt because you go through the same series of thought...

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Bridging Generational Gaps: The 5 Laws of Generational Understanding

Generational gaps are REAL. Often times people of different generations don't quite understand each other. I have often been asked, "Randall, can you help me understand millennials? What tips can you give me to understand how millennials think?" Well, those are some loaded questions, and to be honest there's not a real answer for this. Most people seem a bit disappointed when I break the news to them that there's no magic formula or secret code for breaking into the mind of the millennial generation. I can offer helpful advice on understanding culture, mindset and communication, but we won't get anywhere without first understanding the 5 Laws of Generational Understanding.

Through much of my research and studies on generations over the past few years, I have developed these 5 laws as a foundation for my Bridge leadership program which helps organizations bridge generational gaps. I have seen an extensive need for this message to be spread and these laws adopted because of the lack...

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